This is the summer I gave up on my hair.

July 18, 2023

This summer, I am done with work every at 4 pm every day for the summer, (thank you, Quincy College). It’s been hot as hell lately, most days, so most days, I am climbing down the steps into the pool by 4:45 and slipping under the rope and inside the lap lane by 4:47.

My backstroke meanders. My freestyle is fast, especially when I remember to kick my legs. I don’t practice breaststroke anymore; it feels too much like the the stroke of someone who doesn’t want to get her face wet. Last year, I practiced butterfly. Well done, it is glorious to watch, and if continued for any period of time, it left me breathless.

This year, I keep it simple. I crawl. I float. I backstroke. I dive.

When I get tired, I pull myself out and slather deep conditioner onto my hair. Then I rinse off in the outdoor shower. Sometimes, there is a tiny group of six year old girls watching me shower because a lifeguard asked them to give me a turn. The shower is very popular with first grade girls.

I have a pair of goggles that keeps all the water out, and I cherish them as much as my fancy headphones.

I only have one swimsuit; it is two pieces that do not match. But the top piece is blue, and bottoms are black, and I don’t think anyone has noticed. I do spend most of my time underwater.

There have been quite a few changes in my life these past years; I am now recognizing this trend will continue, even speed up, in the near and distant future.

I find comfort knowing this is not particular to me; it seems everyone I know is experiencing roughly the same thing, just different circumstances-different levels and combinations of grief, joy, and willingness to adapt to, for lack of a better term, the increasing speed of life

I’m not sure I could adapt to life without swimming in Cunningham Pool, most days at 445.

But, I do.

Every year, it closes mid August so the lifeguards can go back to college.

I sign up for boot-camps and glory in the fall colors while walking Bernadette and Chanel, in the woods just behind an empty Cunningham Pool.

This was the first summer, I didn’t bother to blow dry my hair after dinner, even on weeknights.

I decided summer evenings could be better spent walking the dogs after sunset, going out for ice cream with Katy, heading to bed early, with a book, or to the sofa, to watch Ted Lasso, for the second time, with my husband, (it’s his first, and I think I’m hoping some of Ted’s optimism will rub off).

It’s hasn’t, yet anyway. But it’s only July 17th, and there’s time for us all.

One Response to “This is the summer I gave up on my hair.”

  1. elizmor's avatar elizmor said

    I’ve given up on my hair too! The humid weather frizzes it no matter what i do. Recently I tried blow drying, hot ironing, anti frizz serums, gels and oils plus super, extra hold hairspray. When I went outside my hair quickly turned into a frizzy mess.
    So now I wash it and tie it back in a ponytail. Done! Saves time, energy and money, plus helps the environment.

    You have made me want very much to dive into Cunningham pool! More hot weather coming up, I hope to see you there, Julie

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